I have been going out with a guy for over two years. I drive and it takes me half an hour to get to his house. he doesnt drive and it takes him about 2 hours to get to my house via public transport.309942
I am happy to visit him a lot more than he visits me for the obvious reasons of ease of getting there. But i also want to stay a day or two because it is still a pain to drive so far, and i cant afford the petrol.
My guy is the type of person who likes being alone, and if we spend maybe 2 or 3 days together I have to leave so he can "have his alone time".
I am the kind of person who is happier being around someone that i care for and enjoy being with. I don't like being home alone. When I dont want to go out and socialise with my friends, I still dont want to be alone - i want to be with my guy, even if it's just to watch tv and snuggle.
My problem is this:
I have seen my guy for 6 hours in the past week because i have been working (and i was too tired to do much more than go out for dinner in those 6 hours).
I went to the movies with my guy and our mutual friends (including his male flatmate who drives) on friday night, after that we went to a pool hall to play pool. It is my assumption that MOST people in a long term relationship would expect to stay with their partner after seeing the friends - go home together, maybe spend the next day together since you havent seen each other in a while. I didn't bother asking my guy to come back to my place - because this happens a lot and he always says no. he never plans ahead for that kind of thing. Normally i end up driving back to his house with him. (The pool hall is near my house.) So this time, instead of asking and pleading to spend some time with him, i let him know i want to be with him and leave the rest to him.
At the end of the night, everyone is hugging and saying goodbye. I was hoping my guy would perhaps ask me what i wanted to do, but all he did was hug me and say goodbye.
Is it normal for a guy to not want to spend time with his girlfriend? he says he likes me and likes being with me and is glad im his girlfriend. but why does he never want to spend time with me? especially when he knows how much i dont like being alone? There's lots of opportunities where it would be just as easy if not easier to stay with me for a night or a day, and yet he always ops to go home. I get so upset because i still think a normal boyfriend would jump at the chance of spending the night with his girl. It's almost like it doesnt occur to him that we should spend time together.
i respect his need for alone time, and let him have it as much as possible (Even tho it often hurts me to do so). Am i wrong in thinking that he isnt respecting my need to spend time with him, and he isnt willing to sacrifice for me in the way that i sacrifice for him?
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youe not the only one who feels like that..Im in da same boat as u are... we just gotta be strong and learn how to let them go we gotta think bout ourself and what will make us happy since our dude cant...It hurts how they just leave us hanging like we are an animal we are not we are human just like their mother and if they dont want a man treating their mother or sister that way then they shouldnt do it to us... So imma hope and pray that we both can be strong enough and move the fk on wit out life cuhz being in the realtionship we are in right now is not heatly...
he needs more fck. u need to spread yur legs more!
hahah wrong i give my dude sex but he rather just be wit his family since it seems likes his fking his on his family and friends...
either you\'re too much available or he got someone else or maybe he starting to lose interest61759802
seems like ya are meant for each other. hes a broken man and ur a fixing woman. doesnt matter what we said, ur gonna run back to him. 61759844
are you making him upset?61759871
- Hmoob Lis
Who would not want to spent lonesome time with their girlfriend? I mean, I know some guys/girls who doesn\'t really do so as much as they rather be with their family or friends. Which is ok but sometimes its not all about the family and friends if you're in a relationship with someone other than yourself lol. Why put yourself in a relationship that doesn't go anywhere? It will surely stress you out and making you feel more remorse like you're only dating yourself. Its like that person you so call yours doesn't even exist in reality. Feels more like a fairytale other than an actual mutual relationship that you put so much effort into only to see such a failure. The way I see it, it aint even worth it period. It's not even called a relationship, more like a relationshit. #realtalk61759894
- TEELAH VIOX
If this were to happen to me, it tells me that he doesn't want to be serious with you. If the man loves you, like a lot, he would allow give HIS time for/with you. I feel as if this man isn't interested that much, or doesn't really like clingy women. I also don't see this relationship far due to the fact that the man doesn't want to spend a lot of time with you, and as we women are emotional and need some physical relationship, I don't think the "criterias" will be met. You have already seen the red flags. Acknowledge it and go for your instincts. 61759897
- Justin Cheng Her
- Kevin Yang
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If you are still with him, I'd say you're stupid. What is it about him that makes you stay? Why do you love him? If you have to stop and think for one second, then you're wasting your time.
Your partner should be just as available, and want to see you just as much. Even if you two do nothing together, it is better than not seeing each other at all. Eight years of my life gone for what I thought was a sure thing. Don't fall like I did. It may be blunt, but it needed to be asked.
OH! And sex is great. If you two aren't having meaningful sex often, then that's something in itself. I hope you figured it out.
Time to let go.. Their "alone time" will only mean they\'ll find another.61770034